Re: [at-l] hiking friends

[Jan Ladd <JanLadd@ix.netcom.com>]

Hi ya CHoovers,

Your letter has stayed on my mind ever since I read it.  I have had some
different thoughts about it and have not written you because I just don't know
what to say. I know I can't fix the problem, I don't know you from any personal
meeting but I do understand you have pain and that was the part that didn't go
away.

I was going through my mail just a few min. ago and came across this, please
don't think I'm being trite or uncaring, I just thought it might give you
something to think about, besides it was quoted by Anna Freud.

"I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence, but it
comes from within. It is there all the time." Anna Freud

What I'm trying to say is that "we the list" can't take away your pain, "we the
list" can only be here and encourage you as you let us know that you are hurting,
as you did in the letter you posted.

If you need someone to talk to then please feel free to write me personally and I
will be glad to listen.

Hugs and thoughts,
Sunnie : )






CHoover241@aol.com wrote:

> Hey folks,
>
> Actually this post started as a major slam on you all, and one of my list
> friends contacted me to see how I was doing and threw the logic of this
> straight out the window. Here it goes anyways......
>
> I have asked a couple of times for what happens to the person of a couple
> left behind. I have gotten responses from the persons leaving, but never from
> the person left behind.
>
> I log on and get reports on hiker babes and tutus. This is the light list. As
> a matter of fact, this is the list that thinks it okay to leave loved ones at
> home, because they just have to understand.
>
> Well, it is not okay. I have lost so much weight since Sly left. I can't eat
> or sleep. I spent this evening by myself crying from loneliness near this
> creek near my apartment.
>
> When we choose to hike, we are leaving others who are not going. They may
> support us, but they are leaving us just the same. My mother lives in another
> state and is having huge problems with my hiking next year. The reason is
> that she loves me and she cannot believe that I would give up all my
> possessions to do this crazy thing. She will get better as the time
> approaches. Thing is, she is my mother not my wife.
>
> Here is to the point. The person that I love and worry about and care about
> more than anything has abandoning me to hike. Not one of you has sent me an
> e-mail about how I am doing.I get them asking about how HE is doing, but no
> one thinks that being left at home is a matter of any importance. Goodness,
> you guys will leave your kids in a second for a chance to hike.    For your
> information,  I am not doing that well. Thank you for your lack of concern
> and I will be terminating from this list shortly.
>
>                  choovers
>
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