[at-l] embarrassing mom

[shellydhale at earthlink.net (Shelly Hale)]

Ahhh...but Steve, for many women there is an imaginary bell.  It tolls when
the children are all gone from the nest and mothers can then learn who they
are all over again as an individual.  See...there is a way to live life a
certain way for 50 years and then change.

And, while times are changing, women have been the main caregivers for the
family.  For years, it has been that women have focused their lives around
their family and that focus has dictated what, when, how, and how much women
could do.  Then, all of a sudden that bell tolls, and there may only be 1
other person to cook for (our wonderful hubbies), less laundry, less chores
around the house because things are miraculously staying where they were
placed and so on and so forth.  There comes so much time and/or freedom with
this phenomenon that women do have to learn who they are because their
purpose or focus in life has changed.

Now, I'm not saying that being a mother stops when our children leave
home...but the job of it becomes not quite as strenuous as it once was.
However, with more time on ones hands, women do have to learn how to spend
their time in order to keep from being lonely.  The majority of women are
very social animals and thrive in an environment where they can be
stimulated by conversation and socialization.

By the age of 50, many women are having to relearn how to socialize because
for so long our children have been the focus of that...taking them to this
that or the other event, and our friends were a derivative of those jaunts.
While I do have several years before I hit this milestone, I watched my
mother go through this.  She created her own social group and once a month
they get out and have a girls' night out....sometimes even a weekend.

Now there is the Red Hat Society.  I do think it is a wonderful thing.
While I detest the term "loser", I feel really sad for the woman that used
this terminology in regards to those other women...it makes one wonder  if
she may perhaps be a tad jealous of the good times that the others are
having together.  Hmmm...  But, then again, how can I stand in judgement of
her without knowing her?

Tenacious Tanasi
    (Shelly Hale)

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----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Steve Adams" <stephensadams@hotmail.com>
To: <jestbill@yahoo.com>
Cc: <at-l@mailman.backcountry.net>
Sent: Saturday, February 26, 2005 8:03 AM
Subject: [at-l] embarrassing mom


> William,
>
> Thanks for posting the poem, 2-26-05.
>
> There is a ?Red Hat Society? hereabouts. To join, you have to be a woman
who
> has had more than 50 birthdays.
>
> One woman, not a member observed, ?A bunch of losers get together, wear
red
> hats, and think they are alive.?
>
> I don?t believe you can live a certain way for 50 years and then, with the
> ring of an imaginary bell, become something else.  You live an interesting
> life or you don?t.
>
> Steve
>
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